We are often spending our time and energy to feel worry about all the things which is out of our control. We try so hard to control uncontrollable peoples or things, manipulating everything and got frustrated that all we have done is useless. 4 things which are normally uncontrollable in our life are :
1. Other people
We cannot change our partner, children, boss or colleagues, even if we want it to.
2. Our inheritance
We cannot choose the family where we were born, or we will be born as a boy or a girl.
3. Our past
Some of us would like to change our past. Sins, mistakes, bad decisions, wrong curves, which all of this obsessed us and we often imagine if we can control our past. We are all known there is nothing we can do to change our past.
4. Environment and our surrounding
There are many things in our life which cannot be controlled. Economics, drunk driver who crashed your car, living cost, weather, etc. If we try to control the uncontrollable things, it would be ended almost every time with frustration and disenchantment, and we harmed our self. If we try to control the uncontrollable peoples in our life, the truth which is happening is that we destroy out own happiness. Knowing that we cannot control them but we are still trying, it would make us become in their control. Our happiness, peace and our comfort are depending to their behaviour, achievement or attitude. Then, when we were frustrated because we cannot control those uncontrollable, we disposed to give full rein to our God. Our relationship with God is stop and we are suffering because we get no love and power from Him to help us. God do not abandon us; He does not leave us or ignore us. God is able and ready to take the uncontrollable things or persons and carry all your problems in His shoulder. He will be there to give all the support and help that you need. God will not take all your problems until you admit it that all your problems is out of your control.
There are things in our life that we can control:
1. Our relationship with God.
It needs a disciplines, acceptance and willingness. If your relationship with God is more important than anything else, you will have a power to control all the uncontrollable things.
2. Our mind.
If you prefer to think about all the wrong things, imagining all the bad things, thinking about all the negative things, and you let your mind to control our surrounding, you will never win from the uncontrollable things.
3. Our tongue.
So many damages happened every day because of the uncontrollable tongues. How important for us to control our tongue and all the words that we said. Our relation with others will get better soon if we can control our tongue.
4. Our attitude.
Even your condition is very bad, there is nothing that can force you to do a bad thing if you do not want it to, and even your condition is very good, there is nothing that can force you to do a good thing if you do not want it to. Our attitude is our own choice.
5. Our integrity.
We can control our integrity. Are you honest to all what you have done in your live? Are you known as a person to be relying on? If we are using our time and power to control the controllable things, there will be enough power and wisdom to handle the uncontrollable. We are not wasting time to be frustrated because of the uncontrollable persons or things, since we are too busy to control the controllable things or person. If you can control the controllable things, you can handle also the uncontrollable.
Source : "How to remain growing from 9 am to 5 pm"
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